As long as people have had money and other people have wanted money, this has been a thing.
But technology has affected this mini-economy twofold: First, as with any Etsy shop, anyone with a good to sell can now easily intersect with someone who wants this good; and second, it has created a culture of righteous entitlement, in which a fringe thing feels mainstream when you find enough people who participate in it.
Seeking Arrangement is just one of several sugar-dating sites, but a popular one.
On all these websites, the splash page features a beautiful young woman, elegant but with sideboob, and either she's overtly dangling a piece of jewelry or she is wearing it. Each time, a man, older, nearing silver status, is looking right at her, unable to take his rich, priapic eyes off her.
Other times, it's concert tickets with backstage passes.
Prada sunglasses, Jimmy Choos, Armani clothing, her Honda Civic... Kitten was teaching dance to kids for a while, and then one of the parents caught wind of what she did on the side, and suddenly there was no room for Kitten in the next season's teaching roster.
Sometimes she gets a wad of money to go buy some clothing.A note on the negotiation, from Thurston: “A lot of women put like ,000” in their online profiles as their hoped-for monthly stipend, but “you just say ‘I'll give you ,000’ and they say yes.” But he was still a novice at this, so he offered her ,000, and she jumped at it. Thurston got his happy ending, and he never got scammed again.And he knows he got off easy with that woman; there are worse and more humiliating scams in the sugar-dating zip code than just losing a few hundred bucks.And aside from that unpleasantness with that woman who scammed him, all Thurston had to wrestle with, really, was the nagging guilt that maybe this whole sugar-dating thing isn't so okay, particularly since he began before his divorce was even finalized. This felt like an ethical dilemma.” But he reminded himself that he was actually helping someone, a poor student, or someone who badly needed the money for, I don't know, medical bills or back taxes or vaping supplies.And that's what it came down to: “The whole concept of a sugar daddy intrigued me, because even if I were dating someone traditionally, I'd give them money anyway.”In any case, Thurston found no shortage of willing candidates eager to accept his altruism, and he dated a bunch of them at once, feeling like a “kid in a candy store.” Eventually he settled on one very beautiful woman, 28, in real estate, with a Wells Fargo account that he could drop ,000 into each month.