Cosmo grilled a bunch of men for the raw details on what he's really thinking the first time you get it on.
How He Preps for First-Time Sex with You"I set aside that afternoon to clean, and if she's really hot, I'll even take off from work early.
It's just a relief to get it over with." —Evan"The beauty of the first time is that I'm not really concerned about anything. There's always another shot." —Ben What He's Secretly Thinking the Next Morning"The morning after is a little weird because of expectations.
Like if she wakes up and starts acting like she owns the place, putting on my clothes, then I get really irritated. But if she wakes up and acts cool about everything, I'll offer to make breakfast because it puts a nice seal on things. I usually say something before we even go to my place or hers. If she gets back on top of you and tries doing something, you pretend that you're snoring." —Grant"When I was younger, I used to wonder the next day how it was for her.
Plus, if you bust out all of your moves the first night, she may just call you for good times and leave it at that." —Jay"For the initial hookup, you're going for a little more of a connection (unless you just brought her home from a club).
You squeeze your butt cheeks together and grimace and shudder and then you pull out and put the condom someplace where she can't see it.
Usually your penis starts going soft right away because it was an effort to keep it hard.
But if it's going on 10 minutes and her hand's not in my pants, I'm just like, what's going on? It's way too early to be talking about things like that.
" —Jay, 25, social worker "This comes from a programmed and idiotic male sense: All I can think about when we're starting to hook up is that I'm scoring and I get to put an 'X' on my chalkboard. If I really care about her, the emotional kind of sex comes later." —Mark, 21, student "If during foreplay, the chick says, 'So where is this relationship going? The first night together is only for fun, not heavy stuff." —Rick, 31, teacher"If a woman doesn't want to do certain things during foreplay or won't let me look at certain parts of her body, like her butt or stomach, that sort of annoys me.