When it comes to religion and romance, what appears to be important statistically is that both partners have approximately the same “level” of religiosity.When religious people marry religious people, or when irreligious people marry irreligious people, they tend to do better in terms of happiness and relational longevity than when an irreligious person marries a religious one. Still, one thing I think you should perhaps consider is that if the Christian girl you’re thinking about accepts the Christian scriptures, she will be instructed by them to avoid marrying you for that all-important thing you don’t have in common (see 1 Corinthians 7).This can seem counterintuitive to the concept of mutual interests being what draws most couples together, obviously.But it is learning to love our differences that has made us stronger as a couple.
So, we have to pick what basis the word “should” would have.
When I was a kid, my mother and I joined a very large "non-denominational" Christian Church, one of the earliest versions of the Mega Churches that exist today. I was in the children's choir, the community was lovely, and we sang from a song book with drawings of long-haired hippies.
Everything was great until politics began to creep in and the church began hosting speakers like Jerry Falwell, the ultraconservative pastor and political pundit.
I love the classic hymns but they'd rather hear the song from The Grinch.
After 22 years together, we know the best way to make our relationship work -- whether we're talking about religion, television shows, or even what we like to eat -- is to understand that we do not have to agree.